As longtime CQ readers know, my nickname came from the period in my life when I was a Star Trek fan. I don’t think I qualified as a Trekkie; I never attended a convention, and the only outward sign of my Trekophilia was my personalized license plate and its “Carship Enterprise” frame. I also dated, had a life, and got married.
Now Trekkies want to do the same, and a new dating service promises to take them where few of the men have gone before:
By day, 28-year-old Scott Josephson is an educational software writer. By night, or during any of his free time for that matter, he is a Trekkie.
In fact, Josephson’s obsession with “Star Trek” has evolved to such a degree that he is now attempting to watch all the TV episodes, from the original version all the way through “Enterprise” — in chronological order. But “Star Trek” is not the only thing on Josephson’s mind these days.
He is also trying to find a girlfriend.
You know, it seems to me that Josephson’s two pursuits might be mutually exclusive. If he wants to watch all of the TV shows from the various series in chronolohgical order, that would take up most of his free time. That may be why he has little success even with Internet dating sites:
“I am not doing the bar and club scene, so it is not that easy for me [to meet people,]” said Josephson in an interview with ABC News. “I have tried some dating sites with minimal success. I am just not finding that person unique enough to date me.”
Fortunately for Josephson and the many “Star Trek”-loving seeking light saber-wielding/video game-playing among us, the answer may now be just a mouse click away. It’s sweetongeeks.com, a new dating site that encourages its members to embrace the geek in all of us.
Actually, this is a brilliant marketing move for dating services. As the founders of this service argue, the same impulses that dominate the normal dating scene also dominate the on-line services — an emphasis on looks and income, if not initially on skills. That tends to make every dating service more or less the same, unless they explicitly specialize — and even then, the same dynamics hold true within that specialization.
It will be interesting to see whether the same holds true for self-described geeks. The early adopters will probably remain on board with the concept, but human nature being what it is, that may get diluted in direct proportion to the success of the site. Men and women will follow cultural imperatives in the long run, and beautiful geeks who earn a good living will likely still get better results than those who lack physical beauty and/or social skills.
In the end, though, it takes commitment to engaging in social activities and honing social skills enough to attract a mate. It’s hard to do that when one has set a goal to watch 400 hours or so in television episodes.